It’s hard to say what the best course of action would be in this situation, but basically, you need to make a decision between two bad options. If your experience with the sponsor has caused you pain and made it clear that they are not a good match for you, then cutting off ties might be your best option.
However, we want to emphasize that if that person was helpful in getting you sober, or is otherwise vital to your continued progress towards recovery, maybe it’s worth giving them another chance. In this piece, we will look at what you should do if your sponsor relapses.
Things You Should do when your sponsor relapses
Get Help from a Third Party. You can’t reason with a sponsor’s decision to relapse, so it’s important to have a plan for handling this situation. Ideally, you should have an objective observer who can determine if the sponsor is relapsing or if there are other factors involved in the relapse. This person can speak with the sponsor about their actions and present a report of their findings to you. They can also be your ally in resolving any issues that may be causing the relapse. If you don’t already have such an ally, then maybe it’s time to look into the possibility of meeting with a third party.
Talk to the Sponsor and Ask Them What’s Going on. During their relapse, the sponsor may be feeling overwhelmed and having difficulties coping with life. It might not be fair to judge them for their actions if you don’t know why they’ve made this decision, so try talking to them about it. Explain that you want to understand their situation, and ask if they want any support. You can even offer a shoulder to lean on or any other type of assistance. You can even try to talk them into seeking professional help in dealing with the issue that’s caused the relapse.
Do What You Must to Protect Yourself. If you feel like you’ve tried everything else and nothing has worked, then maybe it’s time to take matters into your own hands. If the sponsor has relapsed and you feel you can no longer seek help from that person, then it’s time to find another sponsor. This might be a painful decision, and it might take some time to find someone new who you feel comfortable confiding in. But don’t give up because sobriety is worth fighting for!
Take a Step Back and Give Yourself Time to Heal. Having someone you trust to meet with your sponsor might be the best option in this situation. You shouldn’t ignore the actions of the person who relapsed, but you also shouldn’t give up on the experience that sobriety has brought into your life. Stay focused on that, and keep working towards your goals. It may take some time to get past what’s happened, but having faith that there are people in your life who want to help you will make it easier.
Don’t Give Up! You are a sober person, and that’s something you can always be proud of. Don’t let the actions of your sponsor in any way diminish your accomplishments or take away from how hard you’ve worked on sobriety. If you’re dealing with a relapse, then it’s not the end of the world. Things happen, and sometimes they can be difficult to handle, but don’t think that they will cause you to quit on sobriety or give up on anyone who is still working towards recovery.
Take Care of Yourself and Continue Working on Sobriety. A relapse is not something that you can control, and it’s going to be hard work to stay sober. Work to make yourself happy, keep your friends and family close, and find other things in your life that make you feel fulfilled. These are all important things that you need to take care of because the relapse is going to happen again no matter what you do. Keep working towards doing all the things that will make you feel good, and don’t let a relapse ruin your life.
Look into Finding a Sponsor Who’s Definitely Right For You. If your sponsor is having trouble staying sober, then maybe it’s time to look into replacing that person in your life. If you find someone who’s been in recovery for longer than your sponsor, then maybe this person will be better suited to your needs.
You can still be friends with your old sponsor, but you should know that even though they’re helping with sobriety, they are not a good match for you as a sponsor. So don’t feel guilty or worried about this decision! It’s going to be difficult, and it will take time, but eventually, you’ll find someone who meets your needs.
In conclusion, if your sponsor has relapsed, then it’s a good idea to talk to them about it, but this is only one of the many situations that can arise when someone is in recovery. If you need advice from an expert, our counselors are available 24 hours a day. Call 844-844-3463.